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Public Forum => Articles & Recommended Reading => Topic started by: Blue Rapture on February 28, 2015, 09:23:51 AM
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10 Surprising Things You Never Knew About Infidelity (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/02/19/surprising-infidelity-facts_n_6708236.html).
Actually some of these aren't all that 'surprising' to me ... ;) And others seem like 'junk science' to me.
What say you?
(URL in the event the above link doesn't work correctly/becomes outdated:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/02/19/surprising-infidelity-facts_n_6708236.html )
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I don't agree with most of them ... but #8 is funny because it's TRUE! lmao :o
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Amusing! Thinking back on it ... it often fell on a Wednesday that my MM would pay me a visit ... :o (#10).
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LOL, Wednesday was me and Calm's day! ;D And he had a crooked wang, so... maybe broken in a previous tryst? :o
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This one was posted on a friend's SNS yesterday, and naturally, all of the women were up in arms about all of it being BS and obviously written by a man..never any excuse to cheat, blah, blah.
Honestly....I find it one of the most honest and accurate articles I've seen...and the majority of the points I can directly attribute to Green.
http://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/relationships/a31959/infidelity-in-marriage/?src=spr_FBPAGE&spr_id=1443_164824840
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I read through the article quickly but this is what stood out to me the most and I'll explain why ...
Fact #4: Men hate themselves after affairs.
You may think of cheaters as men without morals, but while they may like what they did, they tend to despise themselves after their indiscretions. "If he puts his ego to the side, he'll feel like a piece of garbage," says relationship expert Charles J. Orlando, author of The Problem with Women … Is Men. "After all, he's betraying another human being who he claims to care about, so that takes its toll on every part of his psyche." A cheater can feel as though he's failed as a man.
I read that and have read other similar comments men have made about how 'awful' they feel about what they have done to the wife (which of course is legitimate) BUT how about feeling shitty about what they have done to the OW!!! Grrrrr! Really are we so not worth it - feeling shitty for how you have treated us?!!! Really! :getyou:
There, I've said it. Feel better now. Thanks for listening. :biggrin:
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This was Green's biggest problem...he has no self control and simply could not be around me...but he did feel like a complete piece of shit about himself and what he was doing...he despised himself.
Not just about lying to his W, not just about hurting his family...but he did also feel like shit for what he was doing to me.
It didn't stop him though...because the centre of his world always comes back to him and his needs and wants
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(From the 2nd/Good Housekeeping article):
Fact #7: A wife often knows her husband's cheating.
How could Tiger Woods's ex, Elin Nordegren, and Arnold Schwarzenegger's ex, Maria Shriver, not have known what their high-profile husbands were up to? They probably did, but couldn't bear to acknowledge it. "At one level, I knew, but my denial was so strong," says Lily* from Toronto, Canada. "The pain, had I accepted it at that time, would have been too horrendous, so I had to process it slowly."
This was definitely true in our case. I think everyone BUT Ivy knew, pretty much all along...even her best friend told her at one point that there was "something going on between Love and MWH" and she shrugged it off saying she had "more important things to worry about." (?)
It wasn't until months after he'd left her and had moved in with me (he'd told her he was "staying with a friend") that she finally took it upon herself to do a little investigating and confronted him. At that point we were more concerned about protecting her as much as possible and not making it any worse than it already was, so we agreed that the best thing was for him to immediately come clean with her. We knew if he didn't she'd keep digging until she found the truth anyway, and what would the point of that have been.
So, he told her that he was in love with someone else (she immediately guessed that it was me), he confirmed it, and she beat him to the punch and filed for D several days later.